People have to acquire certain characteristics in the formation of personality. When they are unable to achieve them, people become impersonal. So we should acquire those characteristics in the formation of personality. The following are some of the characteristics in the light of the Qur'anic Hadith:
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| Maintain your personality |
Maintain your personality in three ways
Self-esteem:
Self-esteem and self-respect are the adornments of a believer. The believer cannot devote himself to any work. Can't support any work. Because self-esteem does not allow them to do all the work. However, it should be kept in mind that self-esteem and self-ego are not one thing. God loves people who have self-respect. But he hates those who have self-ego. Again, those who lose their identity in the name of so-called smartness, Allah also hates them. Mughira (ra) said Saad ibn Ubadah (ra) said,
مُوسَى حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْمَلِكِ عَنْ وَرَّادٍ كَاتِبِ الْمُغِيرَةِ عَنْ الْمُغِيرَةِ قَالَ قَالَ سَعْدُ بْنُ عُبَادَةَ لَوْ رَأَيْتُ رَجُلاً مَعَ امْرَأَتِي لَضَرَبْتُهُ بِالسَّيْفِ غَيْرَ مُصْفَحٍ فَبَلَغَ ذَلِكَ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ أَتَعْجَبُونَ مِنْ غَيْرَةِ سَعْدٍ لأَنَا أَغْيَرُ مِنْهُ وَاللهُ أَغْيَرُ مِنِّي.
if I see a stranger with my wife, I will hit him with the sharp side of the sword. This statement of his reached the Prophet (peace be upon him). Then he said, are you surprised at Saad's self-esteem? I am more self-respecting than him. And God is more self-respecting than me. (Bukhari, Hadith: 6846)
The message of this hadith should be conveyed to every human being at the present time. Because the present society has forgotten this instruction of the Prophet (peace be upon him). People have started to be proud of what was a shameful thing for a believer. Forgetting the path of guidance, people are following in the footsteps of Iblis Shaitan.
Self-knowledge:
Almighty Allah has especially encouraged His beloved servants to acquire knowledge. The beacon of light for the believer was the first message of the Holy Qur'an, ‘Iqra’. Read! Not only that, in the Holy Qur'an, he praised the wise and said,
شَهِدَ اللَّهُ أَنَّهُ لَا إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا هُوَ وَالْمَلَائِكَةُ وَأُولُو الْعِلْمِ قَائِمًا بِالْقِسْطِ ۚ لَا إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا هُوَ الْعَزِيزُ الْحَكِيمُ - 3:18
"Allah bears witness that there is no true god but He." And the angels and the wise ones, God is based on justice. There is no true god but He, the Almighty, the Wise. (Surah: Ale Imran, verse: 18)
In another verse, وَمِنَ النَّاسِ وَالدَّوَابِّ وَالْأَنْعَامِ مُخْتَلِفٌ أَلْوَانُهُ كَذَٰلِكَ ۗ إِنَّمَا يَخْشَى اللَّهَ مِنْ عِبَادِهِ الْعُلَمَاءُ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزِيزٌ غَفُورٌ - 35:28
Allah the Almighty says, "Only those of the servants of Allah who are wise fear Him. (Surah Fatir, verse 28)
The more one knows about God's power, knowledge, wisdom and wisdom, wrath, might, sovereign authority and other qualities, the more one will be afraid to disobey Him. On the other hand, the more ignorant a person is about the nature and attributes of God, the more fearless he will be about Him. This may be the reason why the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said,
حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدُ بْنُ عُفَيْرٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ وَهْبٍ، عَنْ يُونُسَ، عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ، قَالَ قَالَ حُمَيْدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ سَمِعْتُ مُعَاوِيَةَ، خَطِيبًا يَقُولُ سَمِعْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ " مَنْ يُرِدِ اللَّهُ بِهِ خَيْرًا يُفَقِّهْهُ فِي الدِّينِ، وَإِنَّمَا أَنَا قَاسِمٌ وَاللَّهُ يُعْطِي، وَلَنْ تَزَالَ هَذِهِ الأُمَّةُ قَائِمَةً عَلَى أَمْرِ اللَّهِ لاَ يَضُرُّهُمْ مَنْ خَالَفَهُمْ حَتَّى يَأْتِيَ أَمْرُ اللَّهِ
Therefore, acquiring knowledge is essential in forming an ideal personality. The knowledge that helps man to attain the love of Allah and to adopt taqwa, the knowledge that helps man to move forward from the deep darkness of kufr shirk to the light of faith.
Anger control:
حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ السَّرْحِ، حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ وَهْبٍ، عَنْ سَعِيدٍ، - يَعْنِي ابْنَ أَبِي أَيُّوبَ - عَنْ أَبِي مَرْحُومٍ، عَنْ سَهْلِ بْنِ مُعَاذٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " مَنْ كَظَمَ غَيْظًا - وَهُوَ قَادِرٌ عَلَى أَنْ يُنْفِذَهُ - دَعَاهُ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ عَلَى رُءُوسِ الْخَلاَئِقِ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ حَتَّى يُخَيِّرَهُ اللَّهُ مِنَ الْحُورِ مَا شَاءَ " . قَالَ أَبُو دَاوُدَ اسْمُ أَبِي مَرْحُومٍ عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مَيْمُونٍ .
It is understood from this hadith that those who cannot control their anger in the world will be deprived of this great blessing. It is not heroism to burn others in the fire of anger. It does not increase people's respect. Rather, anger and vengeance lighten people up.
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ التَّيْمِيِّ، عَنِ الْحَارِثِ بْنِ سُوَيْدٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " مَا تَعُدُّونَ الصُّرَعَةَ فِيكُمْ " . قَالُوا الَّذِي لاَ يَصْرَعُهُ الرِّجَالُ . قَالَ " لاَ وَلَكِنَّهُ الَّذِي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ " .
حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ حَنْبَلٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا دَاوُدُ بْنُ أَبِي هِنْدٍ، عَنْ أَبِي حَرْبِ بْنِ الأَسْوَدِ، عَنْ أَبِي ذَرٍّ، قَالَ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ لَنَا " إِذَا غَضِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ وَهُوَ قَائِمٌ فَلْيَجْلِسْ فَإِنْ ذَهَبَ عَنْهُ الْغَضَبُ وَإِلاَّ فَلْيَضْطَجِعْ " .
May Allah Almighty grant us all the tawfiq to achieve the above qualities.
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